It’s not always easy being a kid! There are lots of new challenges that kids face every day. Like raising hand in class or making new friends. No matter how old they are, one thing that will help is confidence!
So, what is confidence all about? Confidence believes in them. Confidence is also something that can be grown. It is up to you as a parent to understand what they are going through and guide them how to deal with things, be it positive or negative. Helping children with low confidence is as important as making sure they eat and drink well or get their vaccinations on time. Low confidence levels can lead to depression, self-hatred, and even suicidal thoughts.
Signs of Low confidence in Children
Your child reacts to emotional situations with aggressive conduct . They do this in order to protect their own feelings of weakness. They usually show aggression towards weaker children.
- Giving Up
Kids with low self-esteem don’t trust their own abilities and get frustrated very easily, if they fail at any task, sometimes after just single attempt. This leads them to leave the task avoid the disgrace of failure.
Lack of confidence brings a feeling of powerlessness over their own lives. As a result, they try taking control over others by dominating others kids or siblings.
Thoughtless behavior is common in children, lack of confidence leads to doing task as fast as they can so they don’t have to feel the pressure.
Denial is a common way for children with low confidence to simply avoid the frustration and suffering that would come if they face others directly.
Best Ways to Improve Confidence in Kids
Here are some tips for improving self-esteem in children:
- Give time to your kid:
As a parent, it is important to simply be there for your child. This means spending time with them, even if it’s something as simple as taking them out for ice-cream, storytelling , playing with them. Children in primary school or younger need your attention even more.
- Respect their Choice:
Allow your child to choose his/her dress, meal and so on. Make sure they know about the consequences of their choices for example if they are choosing spicy food which is not good for them.
- Encourage Them Regularly:
Children should know that they don’t have to be perfect all the time. Try to show sympathy and understanding in your reactions to their failures. The more displeasure you show, the harder it hits their confidence levels. Parents who regularly praise their children help them in developing their sense of self-worth. However, it is important to avoid overpraising
- Give them a few tasks:
Allow them the freedom to do things at their pace, do set limits and requirements. For example, after allowing them to play with their friends ask them to clean up their room and put all the toys at the right place.
- Avoid insulting kids:
Don’t take your anger out on your children. Never use bad words, call them names, insult them in any manner, or downplay their feelings. Negative fortification might make them change their ways temporarily but can overcome their self-esteem.
- Let them figure things out:
allow kids to do few things on their own, For instance, allow your child to pour themselves a glass of water even it means they are going to spill half of it. They will know how to face the problem next time.
- Don’t compare your kid with others:
Accept your child unconditionally. Hold, kiss, hug them and show them as much warmth as possible. Avoid any form of comparison with siblings or friends who do better at school or athletics. Children should know that you will be there for them no matter what in order to feel secure about themselves and their capabilities.
- Develop your own self-esteem
Children learn everything from their parents. Before your child can build their own self-esteem, it is significant that you are confident in yourself. Parents have to be the first role models. If you do your tasks without being crabby about it, your child will learn to do the same.
Children with low self-esteem are tough on themselves. Their insecurities and lack of confidence make them feel like they are not as good or loved as other children. They often focus on their disappointments more than their accomplishments and blame their own lack of expertise or personalities for this.
White Canvas Preschool is committed to building self-confidence in our tiny tots. Encouragement and support are not just words to tell our children. It is our actions that count. The job is tough, but a happy and confident child is worth every effort.